Thursday, March 3, 2011

The Daddy Canary

My two canaries flew out of their nest right on the day I wrote about them. Since, my mom and I have been observing them so closely. Initially, it was mainly because we were afraid they might starve if they couldn't eat by themselves. I even went to the pet store to get the baby bird food for them in case we needed to hand feed them. But, on the contrary, they have been very well fed by the daddy canary.

This was very much to our surprise. The mommy canary finally chose one of the two new nests I made for her and has laid two eggs. So, she has been shying away from the chicks. Meanwhile, the daddy canary has been so wonderful. He feeds his babies constantly throughout the day. At first, my mom and I were afraid that he would only feed the one that sits next to him or when it's convenient to him. But, no, he looks for the babies to feed them. He would fly to one to feed it. Then, he would look for the other one and fly to it to feed it. How amazing! The babies are almost as big as the mom and can fly really well. And the daddy still looks for them to feed them. Very endearing.

Every time I see the daddy canary feed his babies, I think of Jim and the gay dads that have been struggling with their lives, having worries about their kids. My heart just goes out for them. It's heart-breaking.

I am gay, too. I have issues, too. But, I have accepted my situation and been mostly at peace with where I am. Self-acceptance is a very powerful tool in life. Or maybe it's only because I've gone through so much crap in life that I now refuse to let any crap pull me down any more and just make the best of any situation and try to be as happy as possible. I cannot say if having kids is better than not having kids for a gay person or vice-versa. But, for now, I am glad I don't have kids. I'm glad I don't have to worry about hurting the kids. When I am older, I think I might regret that I don't have kids, though.

Every time I think about the daddy canary, I pray for Jim and all those gay dads to be ok, to be accepted by their kids, and, most important of all, to have peace. They deserve it.



  1. T, we gay dads thank you. Yes, dads can be nurturing too.

    Is it possible for you to post some pictures of your canaries? And your African Grey Parrot? What is he saying now?

  2. I will have to look for my camera. I haven't got the African Grey yet. I'm not sure if I can give it enough attention. Meanwhile, I'll learn to talk like an African Grey and say: "Jim, stop growing onions and attend to T's every need."